I’ve followed Kate’s The Small Things Blog for a long time. I originally followed it for her great hair tutorials, but as her family has grown I find myself gravitating towards her lifestyle posts more and more, and one that grabbed my attention specifically was this one.
I’d really love to see a dramatic decrease in the amount of compliments towards women that involve the word “skinny”
I could not agree more!
I post my fitness pictures on Instagram and will check out tags related to fitness when I have a couple of spare minutes. 95% of the time, when someone posts a progress picture or a lifestyle picture, someone will inevitably say, “oh my gosh – you look so skinny!” or “wow – you tiny thing!”
Whilst I’m sure these people are well intentioned, I can’t help but think there are better ways to congratulate someone for their hard work, rather than using the word skinny, or tiny, or words like this, because our focus on congratulating and complimenting others should not just be weight related.
When I see amazing, incredible photos and progress made by awesome people, I say words like, ‘confident, healthy, strong, glowing, toned, lean, empowered,’ – all complimentary words that do not solely revolve around weight or size. I think by complimenting people solely on their weight, we’re perpetuating to younger generations that you can’t be happy, or healthy, or confident, without being ‘tiny,’ or ‘skinny.’
I think it is SO important that we start to promote self love and body confidence, no matter what shape of size, because there are far too many people in this world who are trapped in a world of self loathing.
Imagine a world where we’re not seen as ‘stuck up,’ for being proud of our bodies and our achievements. Imagine a world where young girls build each other up, rather than tear each other down. Imagine a world where people compliment each other for their focus, their determination, their strength, and their mental progress, rather than just their weight or size.
THAT’S the kind of world and people I want to surround myself with, and those are the kind of compliments I want to pay forward to others. There is time to start change in this world for our younger generations who are caught up in a world of self hate, and that time is now.